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As a lifelong introvert, I totally empathize. For me, I call it the “What if” syndrome. What if this goes wrong or It doesn’t go exactly as I planned in my head. I recently set and met a goal of making myself a new pair of shorts for summer. These are my first pair of shorts resulting in something less than perfect. However I will wear them with great pride. Good luck to you and your goals!
I’ve had this so often with sewing projects that didn’t quite go according to plan, but I found it ends up feeling so good to just wear them. Liberating almost. Enjoy them!
I’m an introvert too and am currently holding back on promoting my book *in person*! I told myself I’d spend this year promoting it … and suddenly we’re in April and I’ve not done a fraction of what I intended. I’ve got it into one local gallery gift shop, and have emailed another local shop … but can’t bring myself to just go in a ask people to stock it!
That said … I’ve really reduced how much I criticise myself for not being an entirely different person – the person who would find this all so easy.
I can’t help being introverted. This is me. I’m working with what I’ve got. And yes – I will, and do, push myself, my boundaries, my edges … but I also go gently with myself too. If I was a different person, the book wouldn’t be the same book … I guess I have to learn to work with what’s here, what’s me, what feels right. It’s all about the permission isn’t it?
Definitely – permission is critical, and remembering that actually most of the time all we have to do it give ourselves permission to go after what we want. And yes, I don’t think that introversion is something to be fought against, it’s a part of who we are, we just have to learn how to turn it into a strength and a superpower, rather than something that holds us back. Good luck with your book promotion, I really hope it goes well for you!
Risk-averse introvert here too (hello!). I’ve started to notice recently that success is often more about people following through than about them having the most skill/knowledge or the very very best ideas; a reasonably good idea, seen through thoroughly to completion, is bound to be more successful than an AMAZING idea that never gets finished. Perseverance is worth a great deal. But I don’t think commitment/perseverance and public accountability are necessarily related, and you might be interested in the research summarised in this article: http://www.bulletproofmusician.com/is-it-good-or-bad-to-talk-about-your-goals/ .
Thank you for sharing this article, and I completely agree with your point about following through. I find it’s about balance – there’s no point in being super vocal about every goal to cover up that you’re not actually doing anything! I like to use the accountability approach for clear, tangible steps en route to a larger goal, like working on my newsletter as one part of developing my writing and my blog. But I know that if I were to use the same approach to get me to practice the piano more (I’m so badly lapsed it’s not even funny) it just wouldn’t work. Once I figure out how to nail that one there will be a whole new post…