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Congratulations on the birth of Benji! Your recount reminded me of the birth of my son (now 27!), as my waters broke and I had to be induced to avoid infection too. The hospital didn’t offer epidurals (cottage hospital in the middle of nowhere) so I would have to travel in an ambulance to get one (not what you want to do whilst in labour) and I also didn’t fancy a needle in my spine. I was given pethidine and gas (both brilliant!) and just got on with the job. Like you, I ended up with an episiotomy but I was grateful for it because the cord was around my baby’s neck and it really saved his life. So, when I read your comments about medical intervention I also know, first hand, how very true it is. With my second baby I had a caesarean because she was breach and a vaginal birth carried a a risk for her and for me. Despite the horrendous pain, long recovery time and irreparable damage to my stomach muscles after such a serious procedure I haven’t regretted the decision for a moment (and it was a choice I made in partnership with the gynaecologist). The medical profession really does make a difference. Congratulations again – and enjoy every moment as it really does fly by! Stephanie x
I can easily believe that time passes too quickly – Ben is already three months old and I’m not sure how that happened! Which means he’ll be 27 by the close of play tomorrow I guess. Oh well, like you said I just have to enjoy his childhood as much as I can.
I went through a similar experience with my first over 26 years ago. I’d read all the books, had a plan and was ready to go. I had no complications during the pregnancy and didn’t expect anything different. I’d read every birthing book and skipped every c-section chapter. After a perfectly normal pregnancy, labor and 2 hours pushing, my daughter wasn’t moving in the birth canal at all. I ended up with an emergency c-section. I was completely unprepared for that.., the procedure or recovery. I felt like my body had failed me. Like there was something wrong with me. Looking back, I don’t know how my small 120 pound body could have successfully delivered a 9 lb 9 ounce baby any other way. Modern medicine, epidurals and c-section saved our lives. To heck with how they get here, that’s just 1 day of thousands we will both be alive. And as women, we should support and embrace each other’s plans and decisions but in the end celebrate every life that comes into the world. Regardless of what it takes to get them here safely.
Yes!! I’m so glad that those options were available to you when you needed them most. It is so easy to take it out on our bodies when birth doesn’t go according to “plan”, when actually human birth is a fairly poorly designed system!! Sometimes our bodies need help, and that’s ok. Because babies are amazing :).